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Wedding Band Banter

posted Feb 6, 2010, 11:15 PM by Thu Koelling   [ updated Feb 6, 2010, 11:50 PM ]

Earlier this week, Troy and I got the wedding bands that we had picked out for each other. It was not a simple feat to find a wedding band that would go well with my engagement ring because a regular band would not sit flush next to it. However, Jay at Vardy's was able to find the perfect wedding band although they did not carry the particular style at the time. I really like how she gets my style and will even honestly tell me when something isn't me.

I was so excited about wearing my band but Troy said I needed to wait until the wedding. It's less than two months away now. The time is going to fly by as we still have so much to do but the time will seem so far away before we can wear the bands we got each other.

License to Marry

posted Feb 2, 2010, 10:16 PM by Thu Koelling

Earlier this week, Troy and I went to apply for the marriage license. We wanted to get there when the offices opened at 8am so that we could be done as soon as possible before going to work. Even though we were first in line, other people managed to beat us to the ticket dispenser once the doors opened. While we waited, we were amazed and appalled that so many married people before us had to endure this hassle.

On the bright side, having the license has made "getting married" seem so much more real. A lot of the things that we have done for the wedding was essentially to prepare for a party. 

It also addressed a couple of my concerns. I was able to retain my last name by adding it to my middle name. I had read that some places required a court order in order to change the middle name so I was relieved that it was as simple as designating my desire in an application form.

Another thing that removed a load off my shoulders was getting an answer to how soon I could get a certified copy of the marriage certificate after the wedding. I planned my wedding to be before my birthday which was also when my license was going to expire. I wanted to renew the card and do the name change in one go. The thing was that the wedding was two weeks before my wedding so I did not know how quickly things could get done. It turned out that instead of mailing the license, I could go to the County Clerk-Recorder on the Monday after the wedding to submit the completed license and receive the certificate and copies. With that in hand, I could then go to the Social Security Administration to legally change my name, followed by a stop at the DMV to renew my license under my new name. 

I hope that information helps anyone getting married in Santa Clara County and had the same questions.

Visitor Activities in Northern California

posted Jan 31, 2010, 11:49 AM by Troy Koelling

We've added a list of things that you might be interested in doing or seeing while you visit us for our wedding. Check out the Visitor Activities page and feel free to ask us about how to get there and why we like it.

Ordered the wedding gown!

posted Oct 5, 2009, 11:44 PM by Thu Koelling

Yay! One of the biggest decisions after time and location, the dress, has been made. I ordered my dress from Bay Area Bridal. I used to think that wedding gowns cost thousands of dollars so I thought that I would rent. However, there are lots of stores that sell beautiful dresses for triple digits. I can't wait to see the dress when it arrives in a few months.

Prepared Ourselves with Marriage Prep 101

posted Aug 17, 2009, 8:27 PM by Thu Koelling

This past weekend, we attended a workshop called Marriage Prep 101. Troy's housemates highly recommended it since they had taken it before they got married. I had not thought about taking a marriage prep course, but after thinking how we take courses for things like driving and having babies, it made sense to learn how to live with someone for the rest of our lives. 

I found the workshop helpful with hands-on practice of the skills that they taught us. We also participated in exercises to help us learn about each other. I liked how the couple who led the class were psychologists who had worked with a lot of couples in their clinical practices and in the workshops. They shared their own experiences and instead of making us feel inferior with their perfect marriage, showed us that no marriage is perfect and that what was important was how we handled the conflicts and challenges.

Hired a Wedding Coordinator

posted Aug 17, 2009, 11:07 AM by Thu Koelling   [ updated Aug 17, 2009, 11:09 AM ]

We just hired Mega Khiang to be our wedding coordinator. As excited as I have been to get married, planning the wedding was getting to feel overwhelming and stressful. One day I decided to hire a wedding planner, with Troy's support. I asked around and Mega had the best options for my needs. She is also so available, especially by email, which is my preferred method of communication.

Although Troy and I like to do the bulk of the planning ourselves, I really liked that I will have Mega's help with the details in planning. She would also make the actual wedding day more worry-free for us since she would take care of the business details, coordinating the schedules and key players to make sure that everything will go smoothly.

With a lot of the burden removed from my shoulders, I can feel excited again about the wedding, and I won't feel the urge to elope. :)

Site's technical difficulties

posted Aug 9, 2009, 11:21 AM by Thu Koelling

Yesterday afternoon, I discovered that dreammerger.com was pointing to Dreamhost's server instead of Google Sites where our content is actually stored. Since we had no content at DH, visitors would see a mostly empty index listing. I apologize for that, though I'm not sure what happened and when it occurred. I was able to fix it when I discovered the error, but since DNS propagation can take a while, I figured out how a workaround which will help in the future if this were to happen again. I set up an .htaccess file to redirect to the long url of our site. Hopefully, this doesn't happen again.

Photo collection

posted Jul 21, 2009, 12:44 PM by Thu Koelling

We came up with an idea to collect photos from people at the reception so we can make it easy for people to share pictures that they took. We're excited about having a geeky Silicon Valley wedding. :) Hopefully our guests will have fun with what we plan.


posted Jul 11, 2009, 6:52 PM by Thu Koelling

We have decided to have the wedding in the Northern California area. Now we need to pick a venue.

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